You know those people you know who are just. plain. nice.? Let me paint the picture of the type of person I am referring to.
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They make you feel as though they have never had an argument, or been upset in their entire life.
They usually compliment you, or ask you a very thoughtful question about your life.
A smile is painted on their face and laughter accompanies most conversations with them.
If there isn't laughter or smiles, it's because they are busy comforting you through a hard time, or listening to you rant.
You feel like you can talk to them because you trust them to actually listen, to not pass any judgment, and to not make you feel bad for commanding the conversation.
They are so sickly sweet that you are almost annoyed, but then you realize you're not talking to just "any ol' person", so you're not annoyed at all because you know they are being so raw and absolutley genuine.
Even when you try your very best, they somehow manage to turn the conversation back to you.
Unintentionally, they make you feel worse as a person. Or maybe not worse, but you definitely feel the need to reevaluate who you are to the core.
Sometimes they come baring gifts, but mostly they just make you feel loved, important, cared for, other warm & fuzzy feelings.
These people make you wonder how other people would describe you.
Yeah, you know who I am talking about right? If I had to guess, I would say you started to think of a very specific person while reading the list of descriptions above. If you know more than a few people that fit this personality, then you are very blessed. Now, I am not saying that there aren't many people out there that do most of these things. After all, I am the type of person who likes to see the good in people, so I think lots of people possess many of these qualities. However, I would say this "Just Plain Nice" person, is a rare commodity.
All these people do is practice kindness. They display it with their words, their actions, and their consistency. "Just Plain Nice" people don't waver from who they are to you over long periods of time. Therefore, you feel a certain amount of safety whenever you are speaking to them. It is pretty safe to say that anything that you don't want repeated, won't be. I am lucky to know a few people that fit the bill and I just wanted to take a minute to thank them for being who they are. So often, these people who show so much kindness and grace are taken advantage of, whether we mean to or not. "Just Plain Nice" people are expected to be the listeners, the healers, the mediators, the givers, the back burners, and the shoulders to cry on.
If you know one of these people, who have consistently given you all of their heart and all that they have in your relationship/friendship, then I want to challenge you to do something for them. Here's the catch though, do it selflessly. Don't expect a big thank you. Don't tell them how much time or money that it required to plan. Don't talk about you. Make it about them. Tell them how thankful you are for them and how much you love them because we need more people like them in this world.
How do we create more of these people? By appreciating the ones we already know in the first place, learning from them, and becoming a body of people who showcase kindness every day. Their role is not an easy one, but it's an important one.
Let's all pick up some of the slack and realize how much of a difference we can make by just smiling in someone's direction. Try to just think about all that your grateful for, realize what matters in this life, and react after thinking of those two things. To understand the power that kindness holds, is the first step in becoming a kinder person. Choose positivity today and everyday. Help spread love and good vibes by taking a bit more time to think before you speak. Take a deep breath when you are driving and you start to get frustrated with other people on the road. Close your eyes and pause before responding to an upset child or loved one.
I probably didn't tell you anything new in this blog, but I hope I reinforced that feeling inside you that is always pushing yourself to be the best version of you. Practice kindness today and go thank the ones that are always so loving to you!
Have a great day!
Certified Senior Care Manager